What to do when you don’t understand what’s happening to you

“We don’t always have the answers to everything that happens. And that’s okay.” – Joy Iseki, @thekounsellor   In my work as an emotional wellness coach, I’ve been privileged to meet very unique people across borders with peculiar circumstances and experiences. This has also helped me with accepting some of the things I had once […]

Why it’s important to love yourself

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball   Some people do feel guilty about learning to love themselves. They fear they may be tending towards a lifestyle of selfishness. When you have known mostly self-sabotage almost all […]

Becoming Kind to Yourself

“You’ll never speak to anyone more than you speak to yourself in your head. Be kind to yourself.” –Amanda Couch   Kindness is one thing we are often told to show to people, especially to strangers, so that they can be more comfortable in the unfamiliar environment. Which is fantastic. But whoever reminds us to also […]

ACCEPTING WELL DESERVED ACCOLADES…

“If you do not believe that you deserve good, good may elude you.” – Joy Iseki In my last blog, I shared how it was important that we accept our shadow self, without feeling the need to hide it from who we are. Please read it here. Some issues were raised from that discourse. Part […]

ACCEPTING THE DARK SIDE OF YOU – THE SHADOW SELF.

“..because what you refuse to deal with may eventually deal with you.” – Joy Iseki When we were kids, we judged almost all things we did as nothing. We did most in the name of play, until the adults would catch us in these acts and attached meanings to our actions. We would then accept […]

WHY DO YOU THINK YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH?

Why do we have thoughts about not being good enough? As a private counsellor, one of the most common cases I have to deal with is assisting people to align their thoughts towards having the feeling of good self-worth from within. I have observed that many people, including myself, at some point, have had to […]

IS SELF-LOVE SELFISH?

Today marks the conclusion of our discussion on self-love, and I would like to draw the line between what it means to actually love yourself and what being selfish is. This is important because some without the deep understanding of self-love rush to condemn it and claim self-love to be a selfish life-style agenda. Which […]

HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF PRACTICALLY

HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF While it is important that you love yourself and be at peace with your being, not everyone easily does this. Some people find it guilty to love themselves, primarily because of some credos they’ve been told about self love. Others subtly walk in self-hate unknownly. Whether you are hating yourself or […]

HOW LOVING YOURSELF CAN SAVE YOU

With the recent high rates of suicides globally, one must no longer keep mute about self-acceptance and the idea of people loving and accepting who they are, especially about embracing their story, as much of their mental and emotional health depends on this. You may be wondering how self love is related to suicide. Well, […]

WHAT IS SELF LOVE ABOUT?

The subject of self love has been quite controversial. Some people assume it’s selfish to dwell on it. Some other school of thoughts think it necessary for a good healthy foundation for other relationships. I belong to the latter group. While self love is good, care also must be taken to understand it fully. There’s […]

WHY SELF-ACCEPTANCE IS IMPORTANT.

  The subject of one having to accept oneself can be a debate sometimes, especially among people who wonder how anyone could have rejected himself by the way. Literally, it wasn’t that you told yourself “I refuse me henceforth!” No, nothing like that. These things are most times not done consciously but imitated rather unconsciously […]

HOW TO PRACTICE SELF ACCEPTANCE

Self-acceptance according to Shepard (1979) is an individual’s satisfaction or happiness with one self, and is thought to be necessary for good mental health. Self-acceptance involves self-understanding, a realist, albeit subjective awareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses. It results in an individual’s feelings about oneself, that they are of “unique worth” (wikipedia). In other words, […]

SELF-ACCEPTANCE AND ITS RELATIONSHIP WITH THE AWARENESS OF SELF…

In our discussion on self-awareness, I did say that “Self-awareness is the capacity for introspection and the ability to recognize oneself as an individual separate from the environment and other individuals.” Self-awareness then depends on an understanding of your past and present self. Please refer to our posts on self awareness here. I have brought […]

JOURNEY TO SELF ACCEPTANCE

I will be starting off with our new discussion on self-acceptance. Last month, we discussed self-awareness which was really a great time here. I have since received positive feedback from that discourse. We will start off today with the excerpts on self-acceptance from my book LIVE YOUR YOUNIQUE LIFE. It will be the introductory part […]