JOURNEY TO SELF ACCEPTANCE

JOURNEY TO SELF ACCEPTANCE
December 5, 2017 Joy Iseki

I will be starting off with our new discussion on self-acceptance. Last month, we discussed self-awareness which was really a great time here. I have since received positive feedback from that discourse. We will start off today with the excerpts on self-acceptance from my book LIVE YOUR YOUNIQUE LIFE.

It will be the introductory part of this topic and by next week, we shall go further into it.  My goal is to help you evolve daily and embrace your uniqueness. I am doing this by showing you part of the processes this journey entails. Because to truly live an evolving life, one must go through the discipline of learning about self, observance of self and the acceptance of that self.

ACCEPTING WHO YOU ARE

In my journey to living my younique life so far, especially in the area of inter-personal relationship with those who are trying to also figure themselves out, there is nothing that I have found truer than the fact that most people quietly loathe themselves or something about themselves.

Sometimes the root problem lies in the difficulty they have in accepting their family backgrounds, their past, and maybe their looks. Many people just wish for some ridiculous things. Some who are royalty wish to have a different life while those who have a different life from royalty wish to live in royalty, and in some cases, gets depressed for not experiencing royalty.

Don’t let what you have no control over begin to control your life. That’s signing up for a frustrated life. The truth is, at the root of some drug abuse cases, low self-esteem issues, body shaming, poor self-image, trust issues, depression and even suicides, is a lack of self-acceptance. According to Wikipedia, “Self-acceptance is an individual’s satisfaction or happiness with oneself, and is thought to be necessary for good mental health.” The absence of good mental health is a bane to the development of self-actualization. It can affect the fulfillment of your purpose.

Self-awareness helps with self-acceptance and a firm stand on one’s identity of Self. What it does is make you aware of Self so you can get acquainted with your being. For instance, in becoming more aware of yourself, you may find out reasons you have difficulty in relating with other people. While you may realize your flaws and weaknesses, you should take note of your many good nature too because the human mind tends more towards the negative than it does the positive. You are not all bad. No one is. You have a good soul regardless of how it’s been with you.

The next thing to do, having assessed yourself and realized you still have a lot to work on in terms of improving the areas you aren’t so proud of, is to accept that this is how you are now. That is what self-acceptance simply means. It is accepting who and how you are at the time.

Accepting who you are now is what will aid you to become who you ought to be faster. You have to accept the family you are born into and appreciate the life you have been given. Accept that although there are some things you will have to improve on, you also have a lot to congratulate yourself for and be grateful for too. You have to accept your looks, height, and body size. You have to accept the sound of your voice, texture of your hair, your race and your skin colour. To put it simply, just accept yourself as you are, and if you know that you have fitness issues, work on being fit.

Everyone has things to deal with. We all have “thorns” we’ve all got to deal with. Whatever it is, what we need to do is first of all accept who we are now and at the moment. That is the foundation for authentic living and the bedrock for building our confidence because it helps improve our self-image.

The introvert for instance, who wishes to be more engaging with others should first of all accept that being an introvert is not a deficiency.  That way, the decision to be more engaging will not become a burden to lose one’s originality. It’s great to want to work on one’s social skills, but we should not try to change who we are at the core.

People who have accepted themselves are confident people. They are not proud. That is because they understand their fallibility and tend to humbly accept that there is no perfection with people. They tend to believe that since they are not without struggles, others are not as well.

As a result of this thinking, they do not expect perfection from others, and tend to be very sympathetic and empathetic with other peoples’ struggles because they know how that feels, having had to deal with many of life’s struggles too. They also tend to be less judgmental and less critical of others.

There is a lot that hinges on accepting yourself. Even loving others as you ought to, depends on how well you have accepted yourself. It can be difficult to love others if you haven’t experienced an acceptance of yourself.

I mean, how do you really claim to accept another and love them when you loath you? It is the one of the reasons some people treat others so badly. Because they haven’t learnt to give themselves that humanly regard, they become unable to give what they do not give themselves. People who hate themselves cannot show love to others. They end up hurting themselves and other people.

Truly healthy relationships of any kind are expressed by people who already love themselves and so adorn others with the outpour of that love.

Self-acceptance is not being selfish. It is the fundamental requirement for the fulfilment of treating others as you would love to be treated. Vironika Tugaleva nailed it perfectly when she said, “I only accept your mistakes and flaws to the degree that I accept my own.”

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You can direct any questions, discussion or further contribution on this piece in the comment section below or mail me at thekounsellor@gmail.com. To purchase the author’s books using your debit cards please click https://joyiseki.com/books/

To your succesfully evolving life.

JOY ISEKI

#thecounsellor

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